It has become my favourite book after “Attitude is Everything.”. Everybody should read this book once a year. I am sure that every time and at every phase of your life, you are going to learn something new. This book is written by Brianna Wiest. There is so much treasured wisdom in this book. I am trying to inculcate some of the learning. I have jotted down some of the favorite’s lines from the book. I hope you all will learn something from them as well. So, let’s begin with the wisdom of this month:
- Happiness is not something experienced by someone else; it’s continually experiencing what you already have in new and different ways.
- Grief is a faster teacher than joy.
- Socially intelligent people function in such a way that they are able to communicate with others and leave them feeling at ease without sacrificing who they are and what they want to say.
- Socially intelligent people listen to hear, not respond. While listening to other people speak, they focus on what is being said, not how they are going to respond. This is also known as meta practice of “holding space”. They create an environment and have the ability to empathize.
- Discomfort is something you feel when you are on the precipice of a change or a new understanding.
- Life did not get easier; you got smarter.
- Most people don’t want to be happy, which is why they aren’t.
- Happy people are often perceived as being naïve and vulnerable.
- At its most basic level, argumentativeness is a reflex, not a choice.
- Clarity comes from doing, not thinking about it.
- Creativity thrives in stillness and nothingness.
- What is unconditional love? Unconditional love is loving someone even if they don’t unconditionally love you in return; that’s affection without pretense.
- My life does not define me; I define my life. This moment is not my life; this is a moment in my life.
- You don’t remember years, you remember moments.
- Not everybody has the guts to be truthful, but everybody has the capacity to.
- Success is falling in love with the process, not the outcome.
- No one is thinking about you as much as you are thinking about you.
- Nobody knows what they are “doing with their lives”. Some people have a better idea of what they are working towards, but ultimately, none of us can accurately anticipate or summarize what our existence is about. Not yet.
- We choose to love people who cannot love us back to teach ourselves that we are, in fact, worthy of being loved back.
- It’s our thoughts about what is means when someone does not love us, and how our subconscious minds seek confirmation that this is true, and how this repetitiveness creates a belief, and how that belief creates our lives.
I absolutely loved every thought, and it has been put together really well. As we mature through time and our experiences and obstacles,. There are always going to be multiple challenges while imbibing new habits or making changes. We only need to be consistent and have patience. When you are happy, then you are in present. You are not missing out on anything because you are cherishing your present. It is so intriguing that, most of the time, our responses or reactions are not consciously our own. It is a reflex action that happens instantly.
Creative people get ideas when they are doing nothing, because being idle in itself is a task these days. We only remember the beautiful memories that we have experienced in our lifetimes. According to me, being truthful or honest is a skill to have in someone because these people come with a pure soul.
We always think what people will think of us but nobody cares at all apart from themselves. Do good and be kind. I have read somewhere that you should be with someone who loves you, not with the one whom you love, because you have already given a lot to that person and you are worthy of love as well. Once you start thinking about something repetitively, it is automatically going to sit in your subconscious mind. Let it be the way it is, accept it, and move on. Accepting things is not easy. It is going to be fine by time. Trust the process.
Lately, I have come to know that I love the journey more than the destination. So, the journey should be more beautiful than the destination. While being sad, we experience tons of emotions, which will lead to many learnings from our mistakes. Experience and embrace them. Socially intelligent people was a new term to me, as it defined that they are able to communicate with others smoothly by being themselves, and they are the best listeners and empathizers who listen to others regardless of their point of view, which creates a safe environment for the other person. The below line is an abstract thought with great meaning.
“YOU ARE A BOOK OF STORIES, NOT A NOVEL.”
That is all for this month’s wisdom. I hope you all like it. Do let me know how do you like it. Drop your suggestions in the comments.
Thank you.
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