“Love endlessly (like a mother), love unconditionally (like a sister), love actually (like a wife)”
Such a beautiful line, right. I recently finished reading “8 Rules of love by Jay Shetty”. I find him one of the best speaker and coach. As someone who’s always eager to share insights from books that inspire me, I’ll be highlighting some key takeaways from this detailed guide to love. It is such a detailed book to know about the whole concept of love. Let’s dive in!
- Trust increases gradually through actions, thoughts and words – I think trust is one of the crucial pillars of any relationship, taking time to win but fragile once lost. When trust exists, bonding and companionship flourish. Trust is reinforced through words of affirmation, highlighting values, importance, appreciation, and support.
- “Every time one of you loses, you both lose. Every time the problem loses, you both win” – When partners fight, ego clashes can escalate the situation. Instead, focus on fighting the problem, not each other. This approach fosters teamwork and can deepen your understanding of each other.
- Partners should respect each other’s values, choices and decisions – Values play a significant role in shaping an individual’s personality. It can be formed by a good thought process and good ecosystem of people. To identify your values, examine your choices, habits, spending habits, and social interactions – these can reveal what’s truly important to you.
- Offer a “love sandwich” where you deliver a piece of constructive criticism between two tasty slices of positive feedback. Give suggestions instead of criticism – Such a beautiful way of presenting or giving suggestion to someone. Aim for a 2:1 ratio – two positive comments for every constructive critique. This approach helps maintain a supportive tone while still providing valuable insights.
- In every relationship there are actually three relationships: your relationship with each other, your relationship with your purpose, and your partner’s relationship with their purpose. A person who doesn’t take care of their own purpose has a hard time supporting their partner in theirs – Every relationship defines different phases. Maintaining relationship with the partner and purpose is a constant reminder of supporting each other goals. This balance is crucial for a healthy and fulfilling partnership.
- The four pursuits:
- Dharma – Purpose clarifies your values and priorities to yourself and your partner. Lord Krishna said in Mahabharata that “Where there is Dharma, there is Victory”. Partners should communicate their non-negotiables transparently, ensuring alignment in their values and goals.
- Artha – Related towards your work, finances, health, self-development & personal growth. The meaning of life should be based on all these factors which will drive the relationship. Discussing and aligning on these aspects is crucial for individual growth and a healthy relationship. When partners support each other’s development, it showcases true companionship.
- Kama – Pleasure and connections and your relationships with others. Emotional, mental, and physical connections with your partner are vital for a fulfilling existence. Recognizing the value of pleasure and enjoyment in life can lead to a more fulfilling existence.
- Moksha – Liberation from the material world when you connect with the spirit. Moksha is the ultimate stage of life. Achieving Moksha means breaking free from the cycle of karma, where past actions influence future lives. Spiritual practices and principles can guide individuals on their journey to Moksha.
Until Next Time…
That’s all for today’s blog. I hope these insights help you recognize the meaning of true love in your life, whether it’s with your partner or in other relationships. Feel free to share your questions or suggestions. Happy reading!
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